I was shocked to read the headlines yesterday,40-50% hike in salaries for all the central govt employees.Iam glad that the defence force would be benefited a lot out of this,but in the same breath i would also express my discomfort to the other babus of the country for being paid without any valuation of their performance.
Its always been believed that new breed of MNCs and the Private sector employees are subjected to an impeccable assesment based on CTC(Cost To Company).The moment an employees CTC out weighs the benefits the company derives from the employee,the employee is ousted.CTC takes in account of the pay and perks,office vehicle,office stationery that the employee may be using for personal use.
To make the babus of our country more accountable,the public sector should also be made to adopt the CTC formula-"Cost To Country".In this case this case babus will not jus pay,DA,subsidised housing etc..but also importantly the costs incurred by the delays caused by bureaucratic inertia or inefficieny.
What we need now is a larger audit of our babus,not jus blame but also to identify and reward,praiseworthy performance using the "Cost To Country".
Wednesday, March 26, 2008
Wednesday, March 19, 2008
My Obssesion for Glasses
I wonder how someone could say, 'Men dont make passes with women who wear glasses'. I think its a very generic statement. Atleast I dont fit into that generalisation. In fact , i feel its the contrary. I get attracted by them.!! Infact when i met my wife for the first time my improptive question was, do you wear glasses? She replied in the negative and said i wear lenses!! And that was enough for me,unlike other men i was forcing her to buy a pair of glasses and do away with her lenses!!I always felt that it adds class and charm in women!! After 4 yrs of marriage i have already realised that glasses are just glasses and can be used for only enhancing the visual power and nothing more!!Hence now my wife has moved back to lenses,but my inclination towards the women with glasses remains!!.And I turn back at least once if an woman wears glasses. What makes me do that, I don't know. .Today my little sister also has started wearing glasses and that prompts me to write this post,hope it adds to her beauty!!
Maids Are Made In Hell
Our son was born in the month of June 2005.From the day he was born our hunt for the maid for baby sitting started,daily browsing through newspaper/Internet,calling up agencies etc.After 3 months we found a lady at mid 40"s seemed ok,she was a tamilian working in kerala.And since then started our tryst with maids! Everything was discussed and we had a deal for Rs.3500/-month +stay and food at our place.She was picked up from Cochin by car to Bangalore.The day she came she felt sick and was taking rest the whole day.As days passed she started getting phone calls form home and one day she said she has to leave home immediately.The same day she was dropped at the bus stand by car with paid tickets to her home town.She promised to come in couple of days but later she continued her holiday for next one week.During this time either me or my wife had to be at home.Similar instances continued and we had to take a break from work quite often than before.During one of such usual trips of hers she decided not to return back and she sent her resignation through a phone call.Here we are back to square one.After that we have had quite a few and the last one has just left for a holiday for 2 weeks!And there goes my sons to his grannies place back to kerala!! These maids are the most self fish and completely uncouth lot! Sometimes i wonder is it worth the effort that we are putting in for the kind of hardship we and our kids suffer!
Viewpoint:Kids get in to adaptable mode from the day they are born,it could be the place/people/culture/language/food or anything!!
Viewpoint:Kids get in to adaptable mode from the day they are born,it could be the place/people/culture/language/food or anything!!
Tuesday, March 18, 2008
Malayalam-Hindi style
I have observed at various instances and at various places about how a mallu tries to be a Hindi speaking mallu,and this mostly happens with only mallu women.I seriously don't understand what fancies them to hindi language/men?May be its the SRK syndrome!!I know women born and brought up in kerala who have specific conditions when it comes to selecting their groom ,
The heights is that these words are used amidst pure Malayalam/English sentences by people who have been either born and brought up in some part of north India for couple of years,which is still acceptable or there is one more set of people who would have never crossed the border of kerala but would have grown with chitrahaar and Saturday Hindi movies and some north Indian friends in their colleges and they use these words as style/attitude and what not!!I completely get irritated by such usage,i abhor the fact of (con)fusing language especially when the person can speak the same in their mother tongue!!Am ok if they speak in Hindi and stick to it instead of making a cocktail out of their mother tongue and national language!!
Viewpoint:Lets carry forward our language and culture with utmost purity to the generations to come!!
- Guy should be clean shave
- He should watch Hindi movies
- He should be able to converse in Hindi
- Should resemble a north Indian
- Jeeju
- Bhaiya
- Bhabi
- Deedi
- achha
- Ek second
- Jhadu Pocha
- Mota moti
- Mehendi
- han ji
- Baap re
- Kaam wali
The heights is that these words are used amidst pure Malayalam/English sentences by people who have been either born and brought up in some part of north India for couple of years,which is still acceptable or there is one more set of people who would have never crossed the border of kerala but would have grown with chitrahaar and Saturday Hindi movies and some north Indian friends in their colleges and they use these words as style/attitude and what not!!I completely get irritated by such usage,i abhor the fact of (con)fusing language especially when the person can speak the same in their mother tongue!!Am ok if they speak in Hindi and stick to it instead of making a cocktail out of their mother tongue and national language!!
Viewpoint:Lets carry forward our language and culture with utmost purity to the generations to come!!
Love-One sided!!
I'm not begging you to love me.
I'm not really even asking you.
But, isn't it alright
If I cherish that hope in my heart?
If I dream of just holding your hand,
It will hurt me - not you.
I will try to keep my eyes from shining
When they see you.
And I promise
I will try not to smile a special smile
When you say hello.
but, please
Don't ask me
Not to love you...
Messages.......
TEN EMPOWERING MESSAGES TO TELL YOURSELF DAILY
1. Trust your instincts
2. Do your best
3. Count your blessings
4. Less is more
5. Monitor your thoughts
6. Acknowledge others often
7. Ask for help when you need it
8. Rest in solutions
9. Attitude is everything
10. Stop and smell the roses
Viewpoint:Let these messages create for you a supportive and positive mental environment that will shape your attitudes and behaviors for success, and guide the actions you choose to take.
Idly chutney and the concoction!!
Iam always branded to be a critic in the family for any kind of food being served.It could be a tea or a full course of dinner.I always had an opinion on every dish that is cooked.I and everyone in our family rate my mom as the best cook under the sun.Till the time i was exposed to outside food,i always had a preconcieved notion about certain dishes and any variance from them,was not accpeted by me.Even the prepeation of curd or the dough should exactly match the way my mom made else i would never even taste it.Even now my idea of idly/dosha or chutney is no different from what my mom cooks.I have been to the best of south indian restaurants with loads of expectation and then to find that the food is not at all upto the mark of my tastebuds!!
She always had the masterpiece of her hot piping idlys with coconut chutney and a concoction of shalott and red chilly with coconut oil.I would forgo anything for this piece of food.I haven't had any better combination from others except from my aunt back in kerala.Having lived out of home for last 16yrs and have had variety of cuisines from different corners of the country,my taste buds still yearn to have the food cooked by my mom!!
Sometimes i wonder after my moms time...there would not be anyone to carry the legacy forward and her dishes also will get extinct by time!! I feel sorry for the next generation in our family for not being lucky to have tasted her cusine.
She always had the masterpiece of her hot piping idlys with coconut chutney and a concoction of shalott and red chilly with coconut oil.I would forgo anything for this piece of food.I haven't had any better combination from others except from my aunt back in kerala.Having lived out of home for last 16yrs and have had variety of cuisines from different corners of the country,my taste buds still yearn to have the food cooked by my mom!!
Sometimes i wonder after my moms time...there would not be anyone to carry the legacy forward and her dishes also will get extinct by time!! I feel sorry for the next generation in our family for not being lucky to have tasted her cusine.
Living out of a Bag
Since last 16yrs i have been living out of one travel bag ,in between as an incentive i was blessed with the privellege to live at home post marriage.My life with a bag started from my
College days-cochin
Cadbury-Hubli/mangalore/Chennai
Espn-Cochin/Tirupati
Spice telecom-Gulbarga
Sify-Bangalore/cochin/Chennai /Mumbai
Bharti-Chennai
Lc-Bangalore
The biggest advantage of living out of a bag is that you can acclamatise to any kind of extreme places,from missing the train and sleeping in the station at Hubli to comfortest stay at the 5* hotels in various cities. This gives you a broader outlook towards life and you start getting adjusted to anything and everything .And thats the secret of my happy marriage ;-)
Viewpoint-Rolling stone Gathers (no) Mass??!!
College days-cochin
Cadbury-Hubli/mangalore/Chennai
Espn-Cochin/Tirupati
Spice telecom-Gulbarga
Sify-Bangalore/cochin/Chennai /Mumbai
Bharti-Chennai
Lc-Bangalore
The biggest advantage of living out of a bag is that you can acclamatise to any kind of extreme places,from missing the train and sleeping in the station at Hubli to comfortest stay at the 5* hotels in various cities. This gives you a broader outlook towards life and you start getting adjusted to anything and everything .And thats the secret of my happy marriage ;-)
Viewpoint-Rolling stone Gathers (no) Mass??!!
Monday, March 17, 2008
Past TENSE & Future Cool
Ladies and gentlemen it might be great to re-live the past and be vocal about how much I missed it,but then is it worth worrying about it ignoring the present? Iam of the opinion that life is like a tree with various branches and every branch needn't bear fruits!!
I Would substantiate the same by saying that everyone needn’t have a happy married life!!I have had my share of affairs during my school/college/working place and over a period of time I have grown beyond getting nostalgic about the past and have learnt the art of successfull living in the present and moving on to the future!! Think of people who have had a horrifying past,I think we should always look at the past a nightmare and move forward for a fairy tale tomorrow!! I would be more than satisfied to share my real time happiness with my partner than to brood upon my loss of would be partner in the past.Life is about moving forward and there is no rewind in human life!!
I believe that the best confidant for a married person is their partner!! The moment your partner is a good listener you refrain from things that are not ethically correct,its not about what your partner would think,its about how much you care for their emotions and thoughts!!The bottom line is live the present and build the future!
Viewpoint:Past is a history and Future is a reality!!
I Would substantiate the same by saying that everyone needn’t have a happy married life!!I have had my share of affairs during my school/college/working place and over a period of time I have grown beyond getting nostalgic about the past and have learnt the art of successfull living in the present and moving on to the future!! Think of people who have had a horrifying past,I think we should always look at the past a nightmare and move forward for a fairy tale tomorrow!! I would be more than satisfied to share my real time happiness with my partner than to brood upon my loss of would be partner in the past.Life is about moving forward and there is no rewind in human life!!
I believe that the best confidant for a married person is their partner!! The moment your partner is a good listener you refrain from things that are not ethically correct,its not about what your partner would think,its about how much you care for their emotions and thoughts!!The bottom line is live the present and build the future!
Viewpoint:Past is a history and Future is a reality!!
Lost & Found!!
Everybody gets thrilled when they find their long lost love or for that matter anything after many years. But what’s the big deal in doing so? I don’t understand why people attach so much of emotions to things which they have lost! On the hindsight I feel that they should be treasuring the existing things with them. I have heard many of them saying, it was so nostalgic when I met her/him after so many years. I always wanted to tell, excuse me do u ever say this to people at home when u meet them after a week or two? There is always such sentiments attached to things that are lost and found.
Some of them get overly emotional when they see that the thing they were supposed to own few years back is owned by someone else!! I seriously don’t agree to this!
I believe one should move with times and be more pragmatic in their lives and take care of their day to day things than dreaming and worrying about things/people in the past..,You have one leg in the past and other leg in the future and pissing on the present. I urge everybody who is getting nostalgic about the past and those who get thrilled about things lost and found to have a more realistic approach towards life and life the present to the fullest.
Viewpoint: PAST: If you look back at them, you have the face to the past and arse to the future..
Some of them get overly emotional when they see that the thing they were supposed to own few years back is owned by someone else!! I seriously don’t agree to this!
I believe one should move with times and be more pragmatic in their lives and take care of their day to day things than dreaming and worrying about things/people in the past..,You have one leg in the past and other leg in the future and pissing on the present. I urge everybody who is getting nostalgic about the past and those who get thrilled about things lost and found to have a more realistic approach towards life and life the present to the fullest.
Viewpoint: PAST: If you look back at them, you have the face to the past and arse to the future..
What Romance?
The other day during the course of discussion about a movie one of my colleague exclaimed,"are u romantic?" for a minute i was not able to answer and quickly responded saying that you should be asking my wife about it.But that question left a impression in my mind.I was wondering and trying to gather how would you gauge your level of romance,
Is it then number of hugs and kisses shared with your partner?
Is it with the number of activities that you and your partner do together?
Is it the number of times you and your partner get away on a late night drive?
Is it the sex life?
I was confused for couple of days in trying to understand,am i losing out on any of these things which my partner believes is romantic and i believe its waste of time?After contemplating a lot i decided to ask my wife and as predicted that she was far matured and pragmatic ,she quickly responded,that being romantic is state of mind and you can be romantic in everything you do,even at work!! She says the passion that you show at work is being romantic at work,when you want to be romantic,you try to be perfect and wouldn't want anything to go wrong,hence you take utmost care to ensure that things go as planned!!
Viewpoint:When you are confused,rely on your better half!!
Not a great place to live
I happened to visit Kerala last weekend which happens to be my home state.Its always nostalgic for me to travel by bus from Bangalore.The most cherished part is when you wake up to the early morning green pasture and chirping of birds with view of mountains and clouds playing touch and go with eachother.Ahh...yes now you feel you are in the state where everything is relaxed,clean and fresh yet very unpredictable.But a word of caution you would have entered Kerala border without any stoppages,but once when you enter the state then you need to be prepared for any kind of situation,you could have a hartal/bus roko or a protest by the local college students which could delay you not less than couple of hours to your destination.You would be stranded short of your destination by 10-15kms without any mode of transport.But beyond that the life would be very normal as the hartal/bus roko would have been effective to the place not more than 10kms.
So welcome to kerala!!
Viewpoint:"Gods own counrty' might sound a bit hyped phrase for the state which has the most number of communal violence,absolute political instability and maximum resistance for foreign investment.
Programmed Mind
Handsome,hot-bod,cool dude,sexy are adjectives that are never assosciated with me for people who have seen me atleast once for real.But frankly i have never ever contemplated once to change my looks to match my friends.Thankfully i have a bunch of decent looking friends/cousins who camouflage my looks.However its the confidence bordering a tinge of arrogance in me and the sircastic approach with loads of attitude that makes me feel close to them if not equal to them.I have always felt and i have been advocating that all good looking guys neednt be smart with their tongue and vice versa.Not many goodlooking guys are lucky with finding a hot babe or atleast flirting with one.I believe that to flirt you need to be absolutely confident with your tongue which means you should have a impressive tone,language and a quick understanding of the person whom you want to hit upon.
There are two kinds of people who try to hit upon women:
a)Sumone who is confident and doesnt care abt the response from the women,they are ready to take a slap with a smile.
b)Sumone who treads carefully and leaves out feelers till they get a positive response,and the moment they find a negative response they would vanish from the scene or they would change the entire conversation condusive to the situation.
People falling in the second category are more quality oriented and they would be very choosy in picking up their partner.
But then if there is someone ready to flirt..then jus do it!!
Over a period of time its been learnt that to pick a person(male/female),one needs to just run a preprogrammed s/w which automatically gives u the desired reslut.And because of this the art of flirting is getting redundant soon
Viewpoint:IT is getting into everyone's personal life!!
There are two kinds of people who try to hit upon women:
a)Sumone who is confident and doesnt care abt the response from the women,they are ready to take a slap with a smile.
b)Sumone who treads carefully and leaves out feelers till they get a positive response,and the moment they find a negative response they would vanish from the scene or they would change the entire conversation condusive to the situation.
People falling in the second category are more quality oriented and they would be very choosy in picking up their partner.
But then if there is someone ready to flirt..then jus do it!!
Over a period of time its been learnt that to pick a person(male/female),one needs to just run a preprogrammed s/w which automatically gives u the desired reslut.And because of this the art of flirting is getting redundant soon
Viewpoint:IT is getting into everyone's personal life!!
Digital World
We all would have heard about about Digital:
Music
Movie
Image
Watch
Games
Boards
etc..
Last week in TOI there was a write up on "Digital Drugs'.All of us would have heard about drugs in various forms..powder,drug,shots etc.But here is a form of drug burnt in a CD.And here is a instruction manual,
Use the Digital Drug CD for:
----------------------------
* Boosting your mood, increased happiness
* Alert yet relaxed state of mind
* Inebriated feeling, without the alcohol or headache!
* Rocketing your visualization skills
* Increased confidence, getting rid of inhibitors
Digital Drug CD - Instructions
------------------------------
Using the Digital Drug CD couldn't be simpler!
Like all binaural beat recordings, simply slip on your stereo headphones and press the "Play" button on your CD player.
The binaural beats will automatically begin affecting your brainwaves, and you'll soon realize the benefit - an ultra-happy mood
and an increased confidence!
Digital Drug CD - Your Experience
---------------------------------
You love the rush of a theme park roller coaster, or the true inner happiness experienced during a rare moment of love.
Why can't these moments happen more often, you think? Why can't the world live like that all the time?
With a "digital drug", you can touch those parts of your mind usually reserved for the momentary peaks of our existence.
This is a totally legal, completely safe, non-addictive binaural beat recording that releases endorphins, the body's natural
"happy pill", to bring about an elevated mood state.
You simply slip on the headphones and relax. You feel soft and cosy. As the noises swish around inside your head, you gain a
total sense of clarity and harmony. Your brain naturally generates and releases endorphins, enkephalins, endogenous opiates, and
serotonin... your mood elevates, pain disappears, fears and anxieties are crushed. You steadily begin to realize your sensitivity
has increased. Suddenly everything looks brighter and more beautiful. Why don't people usually see this? You feel like a famous
movie director, with a very special lens on life.
You're totally conscious with amazing clarity of mind. You feel a sense of euphoria. You close your eyes and can suddenly visualize
anything you dream of. It's truly amazing. And it doesn't just last for your sixty minute session... this is a totally natural
"high on life" digital drug, with the effects lasting for hours afterward... no sudden "drop down", no adverse effects. It's just
a feel-great, total-mind state of happiness, pure and simple.
So guys we will soon have digital pubs..offering you drugs in the form of music!!!
Viewpoint:Time is not far when there would be "Digital Sex" available burnt on a CD.Will try and write a imaginative instruction manual on the same :-)
Music
Movie
Image
Watch
Games
Boards
etc..
Last week in TOI there was a write up on "Digital Drugs'.All of us would have heard about drugs in various forms..powder,drug,shots etc.But here is a form of drug burnt in a CD.And here is a instruction manual,
Use the Digital Drug CD for:
----------------------------
* Boosting your mood, increased happiness
* Alert yet relaxed state of mind
* Inebriated feeling, without the alcohol or headache!
* Rocketing your visualization skills
* Increased confidence, getting rid of inhibitors
Digital Drug CD - Instructions
------------------------------
Using the Digital Drug CD couldn't be simpler!
Like all binaural beat recordings, simply slip on your stereo headphones and press the "Play" button on your CD player.
The binaural beats will automatically begin affecting your brainwaves, and you'll soon realize the benefit - an ultra-happy mood
and an increased confidence!
Digital Drug CD - Your Experience
---------------------------------
You love the rush of a theme park roller coaster, or the true inner happiness experienced during a rare moment of love.
Why can't these moments happen more often, you think? Why can't the world live like that all the time?
With a "digital drug", you can touch those parts of your mind usually reserved for the momentary peaks of our existence.
This is a totally legal, completely safe, non-addictive binaural beat recording that releases endorphins, the body's natural
"happy pill", to bring about an elevated mood state.
You simply slip on the headphones and relax. You feel soft and cosy. As the noises swish around inside your head, you gain a
total sense of clarity and harmony. Your brain naturally generates and releases endorphins, enkephalins, endogenous opiates, and
serotonin... your mood elevates, pain disappears, fears and anxieties are crushed. You steadily begin to realize your sensitivity
has increased. Suddenly everything looks brighter and more beautiful. Why don't people usually see this? You feel like a famous
movie director, with a very special lens on life.
You're totally conscious with amazing clarity of mind. You feel a sense of euphoria. You close your eyes and can suddenly visualize
anything you dream of. It's truly amazing. And it doesn't just last for your sixty minute session... this is a totally natural
"high on life" digital drug, with the effects lasting for hours afterward... no sudden "drop down", no adverse effects. It's just
a feel-great, total-mind state of happiness, pure and simple.
So guys we will soon have digital pubs..offering you drugs in the form of music!!!
Viewpoint:Time is not far when there would be "Digital Sex" available burnt on a CD.Will try and write a imaginative instruction manual on the same :-)
back 2 back
I think am feeling irresistible and slightly off mind to post back to back blogs,in a span of few minutes.I think my thoughts are feeling suffocated deep inside and are all set to erupt and thats why this back to abck blogs.Unlike the blog title suggests "Thoughts,Thesaurus & Shakespeare",my blogs will only have "Thoughts" and nothing more.It might sound like one of those cheap chinese products or a credit card sales,where they say everything is free,but you got to pay for everything.
Atleast this brings some eyeballs to my blog :)
Viewpoint:Anything and everything is saleable.
Atleast this brings some eyeballs to my blog :)
Viewpoint:Anything and everything is saleable.
Blog..should i,?can i?
Its been quite a while i have been fancying to write a blog,its since the time an old friend of mine has been asking for my comments on her blogs before she published it.I always thought let me be a proxy to the blog published by her.But here iam gathering all courage to write a blog all by myself.Thanks to the motivation from all the ends.Now as i write this i realise that its no rocket science to write a blog.In fact by now you have your own identity(first of mine) on the world wide web.So here is my first blog dedicated to all those blogging friends of mine who have been motivating me, challenging me and making me feel jealous about their writing.I would wish to write blogs that are simple in language and absolutely candid.I would like to stand out from other blogger by adding a footnote called"viewpoint" after the blog,which would carry my point of view about the whole matter that has been described.
Viewpoint-Let me try and start writing,am sure this is the best way to vent your thoughts.
Viewpoint-Let me try and start writing,am sure this is the best way to vent your thoughts.
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